MOMS TALK: How Important is Religious Education?
A weekly starting point for local parents to discuss hot parenting topics.
I knew I’d left something out, when my daughter, at age 4, referred to the cross on top of a church steeple as “a sword.”
I knew I’d gotten no better when years later, my 8-year-old son asked what the Holy Grail was, while he was playing the Lego version of Indiana Jones. His dad gave him a short synopsis, and when he mentioned Jesus, our son asked excitedly, “Is that the bad guy?”
I was raised Catholic, but I am lapsed now, to say the least. I am carelessly agnostic at best. My kids’ dad was raised a submarine Methodist, meaning he surfaced for services on Easter and Christmas.
As adults, neither of us noticed churches or gave a thought to religion, until our kids’ ignorance of the very institution made us question if we should have included some kind of foundation for religion in their lives.
Obviously, people of faith will raise their children in that faith. But what if you’re essentially faithless? Is it important to give your kids a religious education anyway, simply so they have a foundation upon which to make their own decisions?
I have a hard time putting my kids into Sunday school, or taking them to services, because I do not particularly believe in the tenets that are taught there. I don’t want them to learn things that I question the authenticity of in the first place as gospel truths.
But I question it because I am educated. I do have my childhood years of church services and Sunday school classes under my belt in order to have formulated the doubts, questions and conclusion that I did.
My kids, as of yet, do not have the benefit of this. I don’t want to squelch any budding spirituality, but I don’t want to brainwash them either.
The Church of the Nativity, a Catholic church on Ridgely Road, is offering a new program called “Hometown Nazareth,” which puts kids in a young Jesus’ small-sized sandals, inviting them to imagine the holy family as real, relevant people who were just like us.
Likewise, the Chizuk Amuno Congregation on Stevenson Road makes Torah and Hebrew study relevant to kids’ lives today by accommodating their secular interests and daily activities without losing sight of learning about their Jewish identity.
Valley Baptist Church, on York Road, offers a “Wee School,” which prioritizes children’s spiritual growth as much educational development.
St. John’s United Methodist, on Seminary Avenue, has an all-ages Church School and St. Paul’s Lutheran, on Kurtz Avenue, offers Sunday School, which follows Biblical events chronologically.
Is it a mistake not to avail my kids of the myriad offerings of Lutherville-Timonium’s religious institutions? How do you educate your own children, if your own faith is something less than rock-solid?
LuAnn Brown
3:24 pm on Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Joanna, (Religion) The question you ask is one of the most difficult to answer for another person. Having been raised Roman Catholic puts you at a disadvantage to accept other Christian faiths because the RCs are so "sure" of themselves and you don't believe anymore. I know this from experience. When you realized that it wasn't for you, most times due to a tramatic event, you walked away, physically and emotionally. I'm sure you found it very difficult. Are you asking yourself, "Do I want to set the children up for a disappointment too?" I think that it is important to expose children to religion so that they have the information later in life to choose for themselves. They WILL want to know at some point what it's all about and it is sooo much harder later. I have had many children (mostly teens) say that the people that they meet at church are different from their other friends, in public schools. They have a feeling of acceptance and trust both from the adults and other children. One thing I would say is to start with a smaller church so you can get the feeling of being "known". Try a denomination that is not very uptight and enjoys hospitality. Church shopping is very acceptable. I would caution you though about being too closed minded. Again, you come from a very strict background and you might actually enjoy yourself. If the kids think you are against it personnally, they probably won't give it much of a chance.
jenny atwater
10:01 am on Thursday, May 19, 2011
I struggle with the same issues, Joanna. I'm a lapsed Catholic as well, but I find myself pretty nostalgic about all the pageantry whenever I attend First Communions, or see the photos posted on FB. It's a tough one. I would like my children to have the information to make an informed decision about religion, but at the same time, I don't want to force them to attend church the way I felt forced (and resentful) when I was their age. We talk about God all the time, but they're not receiving any formal education. I'm hoping to find the perfect church at some point. Haven't found it yet...but, I'm open. Let me know if you find a good one. (if you even decide to find a good one.)